you’ve probably heard it said: “to err is human, to forgive is divine”.
well i’ll say: to hell with “divine”. we’re human. lets not even think for a moment that we could mimic the mannerisms of a divine being. cuz if that were possible, this world wont have to suffer war and strife and Crocs (yes my hatred for Crocs does run deep and yes if divine beings really did exist, they’d also frown on Crocs. dont ask how i know, ive just got this gut feel LOL).
*** “Crocs” refers to tacky plasticky-rubery FUGLY sandals – NOT to be confused with the reptile with super fashionable skin.
when someone hurts you, forgiveness doesnt always have to be in the equation because some of us may lack the ability to do so; or need an extremely long time to arrive at this nirvana they call (once again) “forgiveness”.
so what happens til then? REVENGE. settle the scores. set the record straight. punish. an eye for an eye. ive been there. done that. and i tell you, violence (thoughts and/or actions) only serves as arsenic to the very essence of your humanity and personal well-being.
to quote Ghandi: “an eye for an eye would make the whole world blind.”
okaaaay. you’ll say: “but im still annoyed. i need to get even. what can i do?” well. it took me a decade and a half to figure this one out (okay im slow, better late than never) BUT you have to trust me on this cuz it works: turn the negative energy into positive ones. oh im not trying to bore you with monk-speak. tsk. believe me. ive gotten my heart broken many times. the worst sorta heartaches, are the ones from romantic relationships that ended on a nasty note.
im pretty darn inspired by this interview with Lady Gaga:
lady gaga is “laughing all the way” at the ultimate revenge she is getting on her not-so-supporting ex-beau. “I had a boyfriend who told me I’d never succeed, never be nominated for a Grammy, never have a hit song, and that he hoped I’d fail,” she said in the article. “I said to him, ‘Someday, when we’re not together, you won’t be able to order a cup of coffee at the deli without hearing or seeing me.”
As her last little tidbit of love life advice, Lady Gaga says, ” Some women choose to follow men, and some women choose to follow their dreams. If you’re wondering which way to go, remember that your career will never wake up and tell you that it doesn’t love you anymore.” She makes a very good point.
and with that, i’ll cross my heart and swear by this: LIVE WELL – it is the greatest revenge.
er but sidenote: if you’re the super stubborn sort who thrives on anger then at least make some money from it:
RYAN LEE
nice one! i love what she said: “…your career will never wake up and tell you that it doesn’t love you anymore.”
Nice..:)
quite true but on the other hand, as much as i agree with the idea that by showing others your life is great it would definately be taking revenge on them, if the whole world thought like this, well, the world would be worst then it is. wouldn’t it?
lots of your blog post have to do with how the world sucks, but still live it. which definately makes sense. yet, by putting this in all of your readers minds. well, aren’t you in a way, indirectly making everyone worst because you think we should take revenge?
i mean come on, if i had taken revenge on many of the people i have forgiven, well, wow, not only would i have less friends, id gain more enemies, and in this social society, you cant have that….
wow. i had to read that like 5 times over to understand what you’re trying to get at. am i stupid or………….. anyway, i wont even bother to fight that cuz i have this nagging feeling that you and i will never understand each other. so i’ll leave it as “to each his own opinions”. have a good week and try not to think too much okay? LOL.
Still waiting on thos Sydney Photos~
ALOTTTT LEH!!!!!
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hahaha. i had to read again to understand what jess’s trying to say too! ok, so i think she’s saying everyone should not live their life for the better but otherwise. very negative mindset i say. haha. we all deserve better. so do you jess. (:
p.s: if you took revenge by living your life better and showing it to them. seriously, it ain’t gonna hurt anyone. and when your life is great, you’ll definitely get a tons more of friends!! and if everyone choose to live their life better, how will the world be lousier? everyone’s life great equals better world! (:
HAHAHHAHAHA! thanks abbie. cleared the air LOL! xxx
There are some people that are worth forgiving and there are some people I wish them dead or suffer a fate worse than death for all the damn hurt they used to put me through. I just can’t forgive them.. no matter how much I tried. Even uptil now, I hope my ex bf never smiles. Sometimes, I think I might be kind of sick to hope that he suffers a fate worse than death someday in exchange to the pain he brought me thru. . . but I can’t forget what he did.
So i’ll second your opinion that we’re ALL HUMAN which is right.
Saying “we’re all human” is but a lame excuse to exonerate oneself from one’s humanly failings. Dont get me wrong, I make mistakes too.
But what is wrong with being a little more divine. We can never be Christ-like but we could aspire 10%?
It’s precisely because the world is filled with tribulations that forgiveness becomes an even more powerful tool to right the wrongs.
And what will you teach your children?
The world’s had enough of “human” and needs more “divine”
Apologise if you dont agree with me
dont be silly. i welcome opinions. and i agree with you. i just think its a case of you not getting my attempt at humour LOL!
i keep takin for granted that y’all know the way i speak just as my friends do. my bad. anyway the point of this entry is not abt being human or divine. the point im trying to drive (and apparently failed miserably) is: that we should aim to turn negative energy into a positive one. ie: turning a commonly negative concept such as “revenge” and use it in a constructive manner. ie: if you need to take revenge, the best form is to live well. (as opposed to dedicating your life to the destruction of your tormentor)
take this entry as an attempt also at reverse psychology: cant forgive? then at least do yourself a favour and take revenge by LIVING WELL. understand?
I think i understand what jess tryin to convey. Her point is if everyone would revenge in a way by livin better, then the world will be in a very comparison mode. because if everyone wana outstand one another, somehow will lead to chaotic livin style.
However, i understand ur point on this entry.
Very much agree with this — if you need to take revenge, the best form is to live well.
A career is a wonderful thing, but you can’t snuggle up to it on a cold night.
-Marilyn Monroe
sigh. the grass is always greener on the otherside aint it? to each his own. so far, my career has been the more reliable one. ah well.
Lets just say life is too short to mop around feeling miserable and sad. The only one who can make things better is YOURSELF. forgiving/living better/letting go is all for YOURSELF lah. Righto?
i really hate crocs too! ironically one of best friends love it. and why do people pay 50 bucks for a pair of that ugly, bun-looking sandals.
and i do agree on what you say about revenge/forgiveness. and that gaga interview, im pretty sure her ex bf wont go into a deli for coffees anymore if he doesnt wanna hear her! lol
Hahahaha, this post is both funny and at the same time, inspiring (:
May I know where you got that Lady Gaga article please?
hey rozz, an incident today made me understand totally about ur post. best revenge is to live well, to show them the impossible.
I will live well!
A broken heart gives you tears and memories that makes you wanna reach out to the Kleenex tissue box (and spend more money on buying more tissues .. sian). Success(as in living your life better than b4, having gd friends, a better job, reaching out for that dream/goal etc etc) gives you more happiness, $$$ and a better life, so.. tts the better deal I suppose. oh well..
your actions for the april fool’s prank were kind of scary.
honestly, would you have behaved that way if there wasn’t an april fool’s prank intention behind it?
HAHAHAHHAHA!!!! of course i wont la!!! i will get firrrred!!! LOL!
Hey been a silent reader of you blog all these while, but this entry really spoke to me because the issue I’m facing now encompasses a whole lot of emotions I had over past 6 years which the other party has come to the realization that he still has not learnt how to appreciate.
Thanks for the encouragement, albeit I don’t know you
Really appreciate it!
Now I know what to do. You go girl!
this post, i love. helped me get back to my senses. you’re right. why resort to negativity when we once stood tall in our own positive light? shall begin slapping myself as of this moment.
they say the heart is the weakest when broken, the mind is the weakest when outmatched. however, i disagree… i believe they just take breaks and inter-switch with each other. wouldn’t you agree?
oh! and…
I absolutely agree with you on the whole crocs craze. i frown with you. absolutely detest them. cheese sandals in all sorts of colours.. ugh! makes me nauseous seeing families with them.
thanks so much Rozz, you are one great person. live well. cheers.
When will you post your Sydney photos? Your photos are uber amazing, can’t wait!
After you won, you stopped blogging as much as you do in the past:(
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awesome post! you always have a different perspective from others, which is one of the reasons why i love readin’ your posts(: it’s so awesome that you can be so +ve(:
hahah!! babe, have u seen how many pairs of crocs I have at home?? Its just so comfortable…
grossss……………………….
aww…come on..I know u still love me…hahah!!